A Call for Greater Dementia Awareness

A Call for Greater Dementia Awareness

 We don’t have to duplicate Britain’s National Health Service and their 'Health and Well-Being Boards', but elders would be so much better served in the U.S.  if we could work toward earlier screening and coordinated care for dementia patients.

Hey Doc, I Just Heard About This New Miracle Pill/Supplement/Treatment…

Hey Doc, I Just Heard About This New Miracle Pill/Supplement/Treatment…

There really isn't a 'miracle cure' for dementia. Not yet. Will a supplement help? Probably not. Exercise, good nutrition and an active and happy life may make even more of an impact.

Denial and the Family

As I do geriatric house calls around the Bay Area, adult children and other relatives of my patients often say, “He’s just not the way he used to be. Why can’t he be the way he used to be?” Children and other family members often struggle to accept that an elder has dementia.

• Sometimes the patient has been difficult, even mean, in earlier years. It’s difficult for family members to accept that the person that may have driven them crazy a decade ago is now very needy. Try to accept that the elder your dealing with now is fundamentally different because of their dementia

• One upside is that patients sometimes actually improve their relationships with their family after dementia sets in. As one daughter told me, “My Mom is so much easier now: She’s forgotten all the reasons she was mad at me. Now she’s just glad that I’m here.” Hope for that kind of resolution, and even if it doesn’t come, recognize that dementia, not intention, drives the behavior of most patients.

• Accept that relatives go through a very real grieving process when an elder gets dementia. You may grieve the loss of a beloved relative. Or you may grieve the fact that a difficult elder will now never really understand you. If you’re suddenly responsible for caring for your elder, you may grieve the loss of an independent life. Expect this grief. Accept it, and try to work through it.

• Try to acknowledge your fear. Dementia holds up a very scary possibility of what may come with old age. You may be terrified that because you have relative with dementia, you may get it too. Remember that while there is some genetic link to dementia, that is far from the whole story. Try to focus on the present, not a problem that may, or may not, come decades from now.

• Consider joining a support group. Your local Administration on Aging, or your local chapter of the Alzheimer’s association has a list of local support groups for family members. If your elder lives in assisted living, or in a nursing home, those institutions also sponsor support groups for family members.

Especially during the upcoming Holidays, compassion, acceptance and acknowledgement all go a long way when interacting with family, with or without dementia.

Always Check the Meds First

Is it 'dementia' or is it medications? Some medications, even over-the-counter medications, can affect elders adversely, and sometimes create agitation, confusion and memory loss. What to watch out for?

Things Really Become Different As You Age

You may feel young at heart. Your elders may also feel young at heart. But we’re different as we age, and there’s no getting around that. Our brains are different, and they work differently as we age. How can we adjust and make that different less discouraging?